How Can You Adopt a Child Faster From Foster Care?

Tue, 02/17/2009 - 20:06 | JuliaFuller

How can you adopt a child faster from foster care? Is there anything you can do to help social workers notice your homestudy in the pile of hopeful homestudies? Most families begin the older child adoption process anticipating that their phone will soon be ringing off the hook. There are thousands of children in foster care waiting for loving forever families’ right? So what is going on, why isn’t our social worker calling?

Look at the race, age, behaviors, and sibling group size of children your family is approved to adopt on your adoptive homestudy. Termination of parental rights (TPR) usually takes at least 12 to 18 months to make a child available for adoption. If you are only looking at children under the age of two, there are slim pickings. Also, if you are only interested in babies or toddlers, consider becoming a licensed foster parent. Having been a licensed foster parent since 1994, a mentor for 7 years to new foster and adoptive parents, as well as a board member of the local support agency, I can tell you that most foster parents adopt their babies. You cannot care for a baby all day and night for a year or more without becoming attached, period.

The more races your family is open to, the more chances you have to adopt. The more behaviors, medical issues, and exposures your family is open to, the more chances you have to adopt. But you must also be ready to parent these children. Show the agencies that you are ready by attending training and support groups to increase your knowledge and parenting techniques.

Request a copy of your approved homestudy. There are agencies and workers who will accept a copy directly from you, you can fax it, email it, or overnight it. When you send it yourself, be sure to include a few family photos, it makes your study stand out among the crowd. Second, contact Adopt America Network for a registration packet and ask your worker to send them a copy of your homestudy. AAN can send your homestudy out on children you are interested in usually much faster than your worker because they have lots of volunteers. Agencies accept homestudies from AAN and even talk directly to their volunteers about available children. Your assigned volunteer will call and bug the child’s worker for you. The squeaky wheel usually gets greased.

Remember that you can adopt from any state. So get on those state, region, and national websites and register as an approved adoptive family. When you find out that your family will be included in a placement meeting for a child, send a small photo book with about 10 photos of your family in action. Let those workers in the committee know that you are real and have faces, it works.

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Frustrated

Submitted by jefe_yessica on Thu, 04/02/2009 - 15:34.

I did all those things when it comes to what children we open to. We do have a fairly small age limit (0-4), but are open to any race, and gender. We are also listed as foster parents wanting to adopt. We have been waiting for 6 months, with not so much as a phone call. It's so frustrating. All they will ever tell me, is that the laws have changed in Texas, so there simply aren't as many kids going into foster care. You can't tell me, that in the last 6 months, they haven't had any children taken away from their parents. We live in a county kind of far from the agency's office, so I'm starting to think we should switch to working directly with CPS. However, when I called them, they seemed very reluctant to have me switch to them. They said something like: we don't want you to switch and then be disappointed when you don't get a placement. We currently have 5 families waiting for children. Call us back in a few months if you still want to switch. Well, our agency currently has 50 families waiting!!!! I think they mainly deal with kids in their own county, and obviously it wouldn't be the best idea to send kids in foster homes 3 counties over. Sorry for venting. It seems like you might have some more insight into this whole system, and might be able to give me some pointers. Should I call CPS back, and demand to be switched over to their office?