Shelia Davis and her wonderful husband are the parents of three children through the blessing of domestic private infant adoption. Their youngest child was diagnosed with autism when he began missing milestones. They have had to learn many new parenting techniques to help their son. Shelia is the founder of Heaven Sent Adoption Services, Inc. She strives to help women with with unplanned pregnancies make informed decisions about life options; parenting or adoption planning. She encourages all of her potential adoptive parents to research and engage in open loving adoptions. She notes that, “Adoption is very personal to me as I am the sister of two brothers through adoption, the mother of three children through adoption, a friend to three birth parents through adoption, a child of God through adoption and a director of a licensed adoption agency.” 

Click here to read Part One. The one emotion that is always present is Love. The birth parent(s) Love the baby and because of that deep Love make a difficult decision as parents to give the baby the life they want for them even though they aren’t prepared to give it personally. It is not an easy decision, in fact, it is very difficult to move through the grief and sadness afterward, but it does come. With adoption today, you have the ability to see or even be a part of the life you have prepared for your child who has been placed with a family through adoption. Knowing you provided this child with the life her or she is experiencing, can and will help you with the peace you will find.

The adoptive parents Love the birth parent(s) for deciding to give life to the baby and then to entrust that life with them as parents. I was surprised with the overwhelming feelings of Love I had for our children’s birth parent(s), it came over me in a wave, and I did not expect to feel such compassion, empathy and respect for them. The adoptive parents will Love the baby, because they have prepared for years (at times) to welcome a child into their lives, to bring them from a couple to a Family and to have a dream fulfilled – the precious blessing of a child of their own!!

If you are an expectant parent(s) or if someone you know is and it’s an unplanned pregnancy – know it is not an unwanted baby. Rather then just two options (Parenting and Abortion) know that you can receive information about a third option, one that allows Life for the child – Adoption. You have the opportunity to control what happens from here.

You might be a couple wishing to have children to parent, love and nurture. Adoption can be a wonderful avenue to start your journey. Look at the love you have for each other, your not blood related, family is made by the Love and life you share. The day to day moments that make us happy, sad, angry, elated and comfortable. You have the opportunity to control what happens from here.

Are you an adoptee who has wondered, who would love to learn all they can about the wonderful birth parent(s) that gave you Life and then gave you a family. Contact the agency or courthouse who finalized your adoption. Fill out the paperwork and take a step to knowing more. You have the opportunity to control what happens from here.

Adoption is a journey and each or the people in the triad (birth parent(s), adoptive parent(s) and adoptee) have a turn at taking the wheel and being in control of the future. It is only through all working together with Love being present, respecting each person’s role or position and communication that an adoption journey is what you decide it will be.

Shelia Davis

Heaven Sent Adoption Services, Inc

http://www.heavensentadopt.com

Photo Credit: Julia Fuller