YO Bit%&! Pass More Pizza
Do you think these words came from the mouth of a teenager? YO Bit%&, pass more pizza. Well they did not come from a teen or even a tween. They came from the mouth of five-year-old M while sitting in his booster seat at the dinner table. He was asking his mother for another slice of pizza. His dad knocked his own chair over backwards, because he jumped up so fast. Little M made a quick seat change over to the time-out chair. “Oops, M said a bad word, M sorry, but sissies say it all the time. Can M have more pizza, please?”
Will taking in older children affect the younger children in your home? Yes, it will. Should you avoid doing it? Each family needs to make their own decision. However, in this case these are M’s biological sisters placed together for adoption. Are his sisters teenagers? No, they are not yet teenagers. His sisters have been speaking to adults this way since coming into care at the ages of five and seven. They have been in the same placement for over four years.
Not only do they have foul mouths, they have behaviors to match. They have struggled with bulimia, masturbation, hitting, kicking, spitting, and running away since arriving in care. Do their young ages make this hard for you to believe? You should see how cute they are. That might make it even more difficult. Their young ages made it very difficult to find therapy for their eating disorders. No professionals in the area were willing to believe that children so young could have eating disorders. No therapists in the area felt competent to treat children so young for eating disorders.
They have had over four years of therapy currently without a lot of improvement. At 11, one has already spent time in the juvenile detention facility and residential treatment twice.
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Tags: Adoptive family, Birth siblings, Foster adoption, Older child adoption, Special needs, Traumatized children, Tweens
Most eating habits of children can be associated with their parents. Parents should take into consideration what their kids are taking.
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Oh my, what terrible parents, they not only don't watch what their children eat, they have caused the eating disorder! What a pile of crap. When you adopt an older child, they come home with many issues. This includes eating disorders. For years, RTCs always made the assumption that the kids problems were surely caused by the parents. Finally, enlightenment came, they realized that children were quite capable of devleloping problems all by themselves, or with the help of non parental adults, or prior parents. They began to see the family as a potential ally in treating the child. Success improved.
Adoptive parents got to be that by wanting children badly and leaping through many hoops, some rather degrading. Adoptive parents are NOT la-di-da parents. The kid matters. The idea that surely the kid would not have his eating disorder if only the parent would pay attention to what goes in his mouth ignores the type of parents that become adoptive parents. John
I'll have to write a blog about this. Wait, I already did ... You can see the series here:
Eating disorders
Eating disorders are coping mechanisms. They are very common in children who suffered from trauma. You cannot blame loving adoptive parents for this -- it comes from the underlying trauma.
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