Waiting to adopt a child was a very difficult time in my life. It was hard enough going through over three years of failed attempts to become pregnant. At least during that time, I was doing something. While I was waiting to adopt a child, there was nothing to do except wait for the phone to ring. The wait was excruciating for me.

What made things even worse was that I felt as if I did not fit in anywhere. There was not even a Sunday School class for me at my church. Everything was set up according to stage of life. I was neither a newlywed nor a mother of a young child, so I had nowhere to go. (I do not think hub would have approved of my joining the class for singles!)

Most of my friends were either parents or newlyweds. The few couples I knew who had been married a while and did not have children were childless by choice. We had very little in common because I was not interested in the lifestyle they led. I was saving my money for a very expensive adoption, so hub and I were not interested in traveling the world like they did.

I had several friends who were also waiting to become parents, but they did this by being pregnant. Talk about being left out of a club! When women are pregnant, they have a seemingly endless number of things to talk about, and I could not relate to any of them.

Yes, waiting to adopt a child was a lonely time in my life.

Fortunately, I did not wait forever. After I adopted my son, I was back on track again. I found several women who were my age and just gave birth to their first children. We had a lot in common, so that awful period of my life was finally over.

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