Our GuestBlogger today is David Archuletta, the father of a wrongfully adopted son. His son was placed for adoption by his girlfriend; he was told that the baby was stillborn and not his. The child was his and now David is devoted to adoption reform in the U.S. He has published a book: "Odyssey of an Unknown Father: The Complete Book on Wrongful Adoption." To date he has yet to see his child.

David has a newly published novel: " Dying Swans Club / An Expose: A Rosie O'Donnell Funded Adoption Agency."  This novel explores the hidden reasons behind the closure of a Rosie O'Donnell funded Adoption Agency. "It is a story that reflects on the life of the author and a four year-old girl named Destiny. This child considers as first victim of a wrongful adoption case."  This book is available for purchase here.

To the Sirs and Madams of our nation's library:

In analogy, the Library of Congress is a brick and mortar structure built on a foundation of knowledge formed through the perseverance of those that seek such knowledge. However, although well-schooled, we are still yet but imperfect human beings. That said, even in these hallowed halls, sometimes we can run across wrongly applied determinations. Moreover, although these oversights are published by an authority perspective to each field of expertise, when found, shouldn’t we correct these wrongs? In my opinion, this should be done regardless if the error found by a common layperson such as myself.

In the Library of Congress Subject Heading department there is a newly recognized term. It is “Wrongful Adoption,” and it cites definition as follows:

Patricia Dischler is the author of "Because I Loved You: A Birthmother's View of Open Adoption", a speaker, child care professional and birthmother. Read more from Patricia here.

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Some birthmothers have tight, supportive families, some have families that pressure them to keep their child, some have families that pressure them to place their child, some have no family at all. Some adoptive parents want to adopt to bring a new dimension to their families, some have been trying to get pregnant for years and are coming from a place of pain and have very low thresholds for any more, some have families that support adoption, some don't, some embrace openness, some feel forced into it, some are so scared of it they don't know if they can even try. Some adoptees are brought up knowing all about their adoption, some are told when they are preschoolers, some are told when they are in high school, some are never told and find out by accident. Some counselors support open adoption, some do not. Some adoptive parents receive great counseling and guidance, some never receive any. Some birthmothers receive great counseling and are helped to look closely at both options in order to ensure there will be no regrets, some are only pushed towards adoption, some receive no counseling at all. We all have a story to tell. We often make assumptions about how others think and feel even within our own stories. Let's change that.

Patricia Dischler is the author of "Because I Loved You: A Birthmother's View of Open Adoption", a speaker, child care professional and birthmother. Read more from Patricia here.

I recently read a draft of an adoption book a friend of mine is writing; it is a wonderful story from an adoptee's point of view on how she went searching for her birth family. What she found reminded me of the fact that everyone has a story. So often, we see the world through our own point of view and tell ourselves that these are the truths. But we must remember that what we see and what we know is only a part of the truth: it is our truth, but not necessarily that of others. In her story, her birthmother spent decades believing something was true about the birthfather. For his part, he spent decades thinking something was true about the birthmother. Yet, as my friend discovers, each was missing important information that would have completely changed what they thought to be true.

Dear Adoption Maharishi,

My husband and I are in the middle of our home study, and we have hit a snag. Our social worker does not believe that we have dealt with our infertility issues yet, but we have. How can I convince a social worker that I am over my infertility issues and am now ready to adopt a child?

~ Ready to Adopt