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Trauma Tuesday: DID is a Real Disorder

Submitted by FaithA on Tue, 08/10/2010 - 06:11
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Traumatized Adopted Child (c) Julie C

Yesterday, I wrote a scathing blog entry on my personal blog about this article, which listed dissociative identity disorder (DID) as the #7 most controversial psychiatric disorder. Despite the “controversy” surrounding a DID diagnosis, DID will be included in the updated version of the fifth edition of Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5), which is scheduled for publication in May 2013.

DID has been included in the DSM for a very long time (originally under the label of “multiple personality disorder”) and will continue to be included in the fifth edition, so I don’t understand why this diagnosis continues to be viewed by many as “controversial.” Perhaps the controversy sells ad space for television talk shows??

If you are parenting a foster or adopted child with a diagnosis of DID, you need to know that DID is a real disorder and not doubt your child’s experience. DID is caused by severe and ongoing trauma beginning before the age of six. Children over age six and adults who endure ongoing and severe trauma (including prisoners of war) do not develop this disorder.

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Trauma Thursday: Is a “Messed Up” Adopted Child Worth the Investment?

Submitted by FaithA on Thu, 04/01/2010 - 07:27
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Traumatized Adopted Child (c) JulieC

On Tuesday, I wrote a blog entry about the “messed up” traumatized adopted child. In that blog entry, I said the following:

Even though your older foster or adopted child might seem very normal and “fine,” the child is “messed up” inside to a certain degree (some more than others). ~ Faith

In light of this, is it worth investing your time, energy, and love in a foster or adopted child who is always going to be “messed up” inside to a certain degree? The answer is a resounding YES!!

I have shared that I have post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) and am recovering from dissociative identity disorder (DID). By anyone’s account, that would qualify me as pretty “messed up.” I have been through therapy and have healed in many ways, but I am never going to be “normal” because my experiences were not normal. So, am I worth investing in? My friends would tell you yes and then hit you for even asking!!

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Trauma Tuesday: Hearing Voices

Submitted by FaithA on Tue, 02/09/2010 - 07:51
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Traumatized Adopted Child (c) Julie C

I was fascinated to read Julia’s blog entry entitled Many Children Hear Voices Yet Remain Mentally Healthy. I was also fascinated by the article she referenced.

As someone recovering from dissociative identity disorder (DID – formerly known as multiple personality disorder), I always question whether these studies about “hearing voices” are accurate because there is a big difference between hearing auditory voices, as is experienced by some with schizophrenia, and “experiencing loud thoughts,” which is what those of us with DID experience. I am not sure that those conducting the study understand the difference, much less the seven- and eight-year-old subjects of the study.

From what I understand, those with schizophrenia hear audible voices. My mother has many symptoms of schizophrenia but has never chosen to be evaluated for it. One of her symptoms is “hearing God” talk to her. Especially when she is under enormous stress (such as after my father passed away suddenly), “God” will “talk” to my mother, and she claims to “hear” him as if a person was in the room with her. This is very different from what those with DID experience.

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Trauma Tuesday: Effects of Trauma on Very Young Children

Submitted by FaithA on Tue, 08/18/2009 - 07:14
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Traumatized Adopted Child (c) Julie C

A common misconception is that, if you adopt a young traumatized child, you will not need to worry about aftereffects or resulting behavior issues. This could not be further from the truth. The unfortunate reality is that reactive attachment disorder (RAD) develops by age three. So, if you adopt a three-year-old child who suffered from severe abuse, you could wind up parenting a child with all sorts of serious issues, even if you provide a very loving home from age three throughout the rest of the child’s life.

Another serious reactive disorder that can be develop in a young traumatized child is dissociative identity disorder (DID), formerly known as multiple personality disorder. To develop this disorder, a child must have suffered severe and ongoing abuse that began before the age of six. Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can develop in a person of any age who experienced trauma.

Many people who have not been abused themselves or been around people who have fail to appreciate the level of trauma that children experience when they are abused.

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Trauma Thursday: Losing Control of Bodily Functions

Submitted by FaithA on Thu, 04/30/2009 - 07:15
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Traumatized Adopted Child (c) JulieC

An embarrassing part of healing from trauma can involve the involuntary loss of control of bodily functions. This generally happens during a flashback or, in the case of a child with dissociative identity disorder (DID), when a particular alter part is triggered.

For example, let’s say the abused child was tortured to the point that he eventually vomited. When he experiences a flashback of that particular event, his body might react the same way that it did when he first experienced the abuse. So, as he recovers the memory through a flashback, he might get a very strong urge to vomit.

The same thing can happen with bladder or bowel control. If the abused child was terrorized to the point of wetting her pants, then a flashback of that event can cause her to wet her pants again. This is true even into adulthood. If a seventy-year-old child abuse survivor was only 8 when abused, then she is going to revert back to feeling like she is 8 when experiencing the flashback.

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Trauma Tuesday: Head-Banging in the Abused Child with DID

Submitted by FaithA on Tue, 04/21/2009 - 07:30
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Traumatized Adopted Child (c) Julie C

On my blog entry entitled Why Does My Child Bang Her Head on the Wall?, a reader posted the following comment:

My daughter also was a head-banger, into walls, into banisters, into tables...anything. But, was it to relieve the pain or to inflict even more? Or, maybe could it have been during one of her "altered" moments due to DID? I don't know. And, could these behaviors have been just the beginning of more destructive and self-injurious behaviors - ultimately culminating in cutting and suicidal ideation - just to relieve the pain of the abuse and trauma she endured???

~ alejansmom

Her comment continues, which you can read here, but I would like to focus specifically upon the issue of head-banging and dissociative identity disorder (DID).

I have recovered from DID, and I had a head-banging alter part, so I can speak intelligently to this subject.

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Trauma Tuesday: Why is Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) Hard to Diagnose?

Submitted by FaithA on Tue, 04/07/2009 - 07:45
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Traumatized Adopted Child (c) Julie C

A reader asked the question, “Why is Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) hard to diagnose?” The answer to this question is multi-faceted.

In my opinion, the main reason DID is so hard to diagnose is because children with DID are masters at hiding who they really are. The entire point of having DID is to survive severe and ongoing abuse. Children must have begun enduring the severe abuse before age six in order to develop DID, so they learn to hide themselves extremely well at a very early age.

Unlike what you see portrayed in the movies and on TV, DID switching is seamless. It has to be in order to protect the child. The child needs to replace the host personality (the “innocent” part that is unaware of the abuse) with an alter part to endure the abuse without the abuser(s) being able to tell. The child must then be able to switch back so that the “innocent” part protects the secret as the child goes out into the world (at school, with friends, etc.).

Another reason that DID is so hard to diagnose is that the medical community still does not understand the disorder very well.

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Trauma Tuesday: Video to Explain Dissociation and Dissociative Identity Disorder

Submitted by FaithA on Tue, 10/14/2008 - 07:45
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Traumatized Adopted Child (c) Julie C

**Update -- A reader told me that the video link was not working. I have fixed the issue. You can now view the video **

I recently posted a powerful video on organized pedophilia. I don’t know how many of you have watched it, but I cannot get through it without tearing up.

The same person has put together a shorter video (under four minutes long) on dissociation and dissociative identity disorder (DID). If you are parenting a traumatized adopted child, you need to watch this video. It will help you understand how your adopted child’s mind works.

The video is intended for people who do not understand DID and dissociation. The video is not graphic, so you do not need to worry about having horrible sights burned into your brain.

Please let me know what you think. Does this help you understand DID and dissociation a little better?

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Trauma Tuesday: Recognizing Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) in Traumatized Adopted Child

Submitted by FaithA on Tue, 08/26/2008 - 08:45
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  • DID
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  • dissociative identity disorder
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Traumatized Adopted Child (c) Julie C

On Trauma Thursday, I wrote about traumatized adopted children with Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID). Today, I would like to focus on recognizing DID in a traumatized adopted child.

DID is very difficult to recognize unless you know what you are looking for. Even then, it can be hard to see. If you are concerned about DID, the best starting point is understanding the profile of a person with DID.

DID only occurs in people who have suffered from severe trauma from an early age (generally beginning before age six). Children with DID tend to be people-pleasers, which is the whole point of DID – being able to “be” who the child is expected to be in different settings. Children with DID also tend to be highly intelligent.

Children with DID might generally seem one way most of the time, and that “one way” is usually very passive and obedient. However, if the child becomes triggered, he can suddenly act very differently. For example, he might usually allow other people to take advantage of him but then, out of nowhere, suddenly stand his ground very firmly or even in an “over the top” way.

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Trauma Thursday: Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) and the Traumatized Adopted Child

Submitted by FaithA on Thu, 08/21/2008 - 08:45
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  • DID
  • dissociation
  • dissociative identity disorder
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  • Older child adoption
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Traumatized Adopted Child (c) JulieC

On Trauma Tuesday, I introduced the topic of dissociative disorders. Today, I would like to discuss the most extreme type of dissociative disorder, which is called dissociative identity disorder (DID). If you are unfamiliar with DID, you might recognize it by its former name – multiple personality disorder.

DID has gotten a bad rap in the media. When most people think about DID, they think about the movie Sybil. My biggest complaint about how DID is represented in the movies is its lack of subtlety. The whole point of DID is to be able to switch to different alter parts without anyone else knowing. The way that DID is portrayed in the movies is about as subtle as being hit by a truck.

DID is a brilliant way to survive extreme child abuse, and people with DID tend to be highly intelligent.

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