Over two years ago I posted my first blog about my dear friend “P” and her family’s uphill battle to adopt a second child from Guatemala. They have a 6 ½ year old daughter from Guatemala who is a close friend of my daughter Ella. This summer we travelled with them to Guatemala and got to meet the adorable child “P” that she and her husband have been in the process of adopting for three years. It was heartbreaking to say the least.
Here is the latest update I have copied from “P’s” blog with her permission:
Yesterday, I left Guatemala for the twelfth time.........without Nola. I'm sure you know, I had no expectations of bringing her home this time but coming home each time and leaving her behind is heartbreaking! Mark and I signed a new POA and met our new lawyer. He wasn't exactly full of uplifting or encouraging words. Actually, he asked us how long we were prepared to wait and told us it could take a very long time. Now, I don't know about you, but I thought we had already waited a "very long time"!!! He was just being honest with us. He said he had no idea what might happen if and when our case goes back to PGN. He said if PGN required more investigations, it could take a long time. I'm not sure what PGN could possibly want investigated again but if I've learned anything from this journey, it's not to second guess PGN. They do what they want, when they want and in their own time.
The Proverbial Bag of Crap
"Everyone has one.
It's full of all the crap that's happened to us that we don't like. (Like people treating us badly, ways we've been hurt, families created without our choice, things we didn't want to happen to us but did, and so on.)
Each of us has to carry our own bag.
This goes for parents and kids...
No one person’s bag of crap is better or worse than someone else’s.
Each day we have a new chance to figure out how to carry this bag of crap we have.
To deal with it or not to deal with it, to empty it or fill it, to put some of it in someone else's bag or let part of ours go.
What will you do today with your bag of crap?
The choice is yours..."
If you missed the PBS documentary "Wo Ai Ni (I Love You) Mommy" you can watch it online. Personally, I found it heart wrenching but informative and thought provoking.
• In 2001, there were 1.5 million adopted children in the United States, representing 2.5 percent of all U.S. children.
• The Evan B. Donaldson Adoption Institute's 1997 public opinion benchmark survey found that 58 percent of Americans know someone who has been adopted, has adopted a child or has relinquished a child for adoption.
• The Hague Convention, passed in 1993 and implemented in the U.S. in 2008, seeks to prevent human trafficking and protect children's safety, promote transparency in the process by requiring agencies to disclose fees and expenses in writing, and provide adoptive parents with adoption certificates and other paperwork that eases children's entries into their new homelands.
Today the country of Guatemala celebrates 189 years of independence. Secretary of State Hillary Clinton wrote a nice tribute in honor of this celebration. Here is part of the text posted by the U.S. Department of State:
As Guatemalans all over the world commemorate this festive occasion, we join in celebrating your rich culture and honoring the growing ties that unite our countries. I have enjoyed the warmth and generosity of the Guatemalan people on each of my visits, and the Guatemalan community in the United States has made great contributions to our nation. These deep connections between our people reinforce our close partnership.
On my trip to your country last March, President Colom and I affirmed our commitment to work together on expanding economic growth, improving transparency and accountability, and increasing access to health care and education. Through our Pathways to Prosperity initiative and the Central American Regional Security Initiative, we are working together to widen the circle of opportunity for our citizens and promote stability throughout our hemisphere.
396 Children Still Stuck in Adoption Nightmare in Guatemala; “Baby Nola” is One of Them but She is Now Almost Three
This weekend my dear friend “P” and her husband “M” are flying to Guatemala City. This is their "umpteenth" trip since they accepted the referral for baby Nola 2 years, 10 months, 3 weeks and 1 day ago. Pam has made four trips in the last two months – one of which my daughter and I joined.
P and her husband are going to give POA to a new lawyer to handle the adoption; the lawyer who was (mis)handling their case (and was my daughter’s lawyer by the way) recently announced that he was not going to continue with this case. No surprise – he has done almost nothing in the last 2 years.
There are 395 other children stuck in various hogares (orphanages) in Guatemala, and a few fortunate ones who were left living with their foster families until their adoptions are complete.