Religion and Adoption
Who was the First Person Adopted in the Bible?
A reader wants to know who was the first person adopted in the Bible? I had to do a little digging to find out this answer. It depends upon your definition of adoption as to who was the first. If you are going for a liberal definition, the answer would be either Ishmael (Genesis 16) or Dan (Genesis 30). However, the first traditional infant adoption would be Moses (Exodus 2).
Ishmael
Abraham’s wife, Sarah (Sarai) was barren, so she asked Abraham to sleep with her maidservant, Hagar, so she could “build a family through her” (Gen. 16:2). Hagar became pregnant and gave birth to Ishmael, so Ishmael technically could be considered the first adopted child in the Bible. However, Sarah had a major attitude about Ishmael and wound up driving him off with his mother (see Gen. 21), so I don’t really count that one as a true adoption. Clearly Sarah did not embrace Ishmael as her adopted child.
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“If I Adopt a Child, Will God Forgive My Abortion?”
A reader wants to know the answer to the following question:
If I adopt a child, will God forgive my abortion?
It breaks my heart to know that someone is wrestling with this issue. We don’t talk about abortion very often at Adoption Under One Roof, but we have addressed it from time to time, such as in the following blog entries:
- Are All Members of the Adoption Triad Anti-Abortion?
- Birth Mothers, Abortion, and Adoptive Family Fraud
- Crisis Pregnancy Options: Abortion, Adoption, and Parenting
- My Mom Made Me Have an Abortion
As you can tell from reading the comments on those blog entries, the adoption community is just as divided on the issue of abortion as the rest of the world. However, the adoption community is united one on issue surrounding abortion – a person should never adopt a child just to alleviate guilt from a past abortion.
The only good reason to adopt a child is that you truly want to parent a child. An adopted child should never bear the burden of having to be an instrument to alleviate an adoptive parent’s guilt. If you had an abortion and want to parent an adopted child, most would support your decision to adopt a child, but don’t do it just so God will forgive you for a past abortion.
Let’s move onto the specific question asked: Will God forgive an abortion if you adopt a child?
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Adopted People in the Bible
A reader would like to hear about “those in the bible adopted by someone not their mother.” Because studying and debating the Bible is one of my hobbies, I thought this would be a fun topic to discuss.
Of course, you are not going to find adoption decrees or home studies in the Bible. Imagine a world without ICPC requirements … ahhh … but I digress…
The first person to come to mind would be Moses. Pharaoh had ordered the midwives to kill all of the Hebrew baby boys when they were born, so Moses’ mother hid her baby for three months. The mother placed baby Moses in a basket where Pharaoh’s daughter bathed in the Nile. Pharaoh’s daughter found the baby, adopted him, and raised Moses as her son. See Exodus 2.
Jesus was also technically involved in step-parent adoption because God Himself was the father.
Christian Responsibility for the Orphans and Foster Children
Yesterday, Sandra posted a blog entitled Adopting for a cause? Bad idea ..., in which she posted a link to this article. Sandra found the article (which discusses a book that encourages Christians to care for the orphans) to be disturbing, which you can read about on her blog. My take was a little bit different, so I thought I would write about it.
Sandra and I agree on the big picture -- that the only good reason to adopt a child is because you really want to parent a child. I have said this numerous times on my blog. I agree with her that a person should not adopt a child solely because someone tells him that it is the Christian thing to do. So, I am not disagreeing with her on this point.
That being said, I do think there is validity to the point that this author is trying to make about the responsibilities that Christians have to take care of the orphans.
Adopting for a cause? Bad idea ...
There is no doubt that I am, in the broadest sense, pro-adoption. Advocating for the right of the children of the world to have the option of adoption open to them is the foundation of much of my work, and I do what I can to address issues that challenge these rights.
Anti-adoption forces exist in the world, and those are often easily dealt with as pie-in-the-sky attitudes that neglect reality beg correction.
What is not so easy for me, however, is responding to pro-adoption writings that make me cringe.
No matter how many children would benefit from a family, there are many, many reasons for families not to adopt, and although the reasons for are uncountable, wrong ones exist.
One big red flag against an adoption decision is any version of nobility. Seeking sainthood through bringing a child into a family is just plain wrong, and the idea of it is something successful adoptive parents rail against.
Top Ten Twin Names: Isaac & Isaiah
Isaac … its meaning is " laughter" - Think Baby Names
Isaiah … its meaning is "salvation of God; the Lord helps me" - Think Baby Names
I am working through a series on the Top Ten baby names chosen for twins. The most recent statistics available are the twin names chosen in 2007.
Number four on the list are the names Isaac and Isaiah. They are both baby names with Biblical significance, and both are of Hebrew origin.
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Focus on the Family Launches Foster Care Adoption Initiative
I received a letter in the mail from the Christian organization, Focus on the Family (Focus). I learned that Jim Daly, the president and CEO of the organization, was an orphan, so he feels a very strong need to provide loving homes to the children in the foster care system.
Of course, Focus is a Christian organization, so the letter is specifically written to Christians. The letter points out that there are more than 300,000 churches in the United States and 127,000 waiting children. So, if only half of the churches in the United States assisted a family in adopting one child out of foster care, there would be no more foster children waiting for homes.
I must admit that my first reaction was skeptical. I do not believe that people should adopt a child just because their religion tells them to take care of the orphans. I believe that the only reason a person should adopt a child is because he or she truly wants to parent a child. I was pleased to see that the letter addressed this concern as well.
Trauma Thursday: Where Was God During the Abuse?

A recurring theme for many survivors of child abuse is the question, “Where was God during the abuse?” If you are parenting an abused child, you might find that child reluctant, or even defiant, about going to church. From the child’s point of view, if God was not there to protect him from the abuse, then why should he spend his time worshiping a God who abandoned him when He needed help the most?
These are not easy questions, and there are no pat answers. Unfortunately, many churches tend to dodge these tough issues with trite answers such as, “God’s ways are higher than our ways.” That is not going to be satisfying to any child abuse survivor. If an abused child is going to embrace a faith in God, he must first wrestle with the question of where God was during the abuse.
If you are parenting an abused child, then you are going to have to face these questions.
Popular Adoption Baby Names: Andrew
Andrew … its meaning is "man, warrior" - Think Baby Names
The baby name Andrew is of Greek origin. Andrew was one of the first two people that Jesus called as a disciple (along with his brother Peter). Saint Andrew is the patron saint of both Russia and Scotland.
In the United States, the baby name Andrew has not dropped below #86 since 1880. (The baby name ranked #86 in 1945 and 1946.) The baby name was ranked at #24 in 1880 through 1883. The baby name dropped slightly in popularity but reached #24 again in 1977. The baby name Andrew broke into the Top Ten in 1986 and has remained there ever since, peaking at #5 a few times and then settling into #10 in 2007. See Popular Baby Names.
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Dear Adoption Maharishi: How Can I Adopt if I am Not Religious?
Dear Adoption Maharishi,
My husband and I are in the process of trying to find an adoption agency through which we can adopt a newborn baby domestically. I had no idea that so many adoption agencies were religiously-based. I am technically a Methodist and my husband is technically a Catholic, but neither of us has been to a church in years. Why do we have to be religious to adopt? Is there a way to adopt a baby without having to get into one of us converting to the other’s religion?
-- Perceived Heathen


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Dear Adoption Maharishi,
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