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Adopted Child: “You’re Not My Real Mom, Anyhow”
Sorry about dropping off the face of the earth last week. I came down with the H1N1 virus last week – not fun! I ran a fever for two days and stayed very dizzy for five days. I am so thankful to cross that “joy” off of my list of things to do. On to a much more interesting (and less nauseating) topic … adoption!
On 90210 last week, adopted child Dixon (played by Tristan Wilds) said those dreaded words to his adoptive mother, Debbie (played by Lori Loughlin): “You’re not my real mother, anyhow.”
Let me back up. Dixon’s girlfriend claimed to be pregnant as a way to keep Dixon from breaking up with her. Debbie figured it out, called the girlfriend on her scam, and told her to stay away from her son. The girlfriend claimed that she had a miscarriage. Dixon beat himself up over how he handled the “pregnancy,” so Debbie finally came clean with the truth. Dixon was very angry with Debbie for keeping this information from him. Dixon’s adoptive father, Harry (played by Rob Estes) tried to intervene, but Dixon responded that Debbie isn’t his “real mother” anyhow.”
Oh how I dread the day that those words are thrown at me by an angry teenager. It is one thing for an eight-year-old child to lash out in anger with those words because a little kid does not really get the damage that those words can inflict. A seventeen-year-old adopted child knows d@#$ well the damage that those words can cause, but he chose to do it, anyhow.
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Possible Surprising and Disturbing Outcomes of Adoption Search and Reunion
When adoptees or birth parents decide to search for their birth family, they know that the outcome might not be a storybook ending. However, many people who begin the process of searching do not take into account less conventional and disturbing possible outcomes of their search. Before deciding to search, be sure to prepare yourself for other, less common, disturbing outcomes.
The television show 90210 explored one of these possible disturbing outcomes in last week’s episode – the scam. After Sean (played by Josh Henderson) ingratiated himself into the family as the birth son of Harry (played by Rob Estes), other family members became suspicious when Sean revealed that he needed $200,000 to pay off his adoptive father’s gambling debts. To appease his family, Harry asked Sean to undergo a paternity test just as a formality. Of course, Sean was gone the next morning.
In this case, the private investigator was the one working with the con man to bilk more money out of his client. However, scam artists can come in all shapes and sizes.
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90210: Episode where Adoption Reunion Happens
I had been looking forward to watching the latest episode of 90210 all week. (Yes, I am well aware that I need a life!) With last week’s episode ending with the birth son of Harry (played by Rob Estes), 25-year-old Sean (played by Josh Henderson), making his introduction to his two half-sisters, I knew there would be lots to blog about this week. So, you can imagine my frustration when the cable channel fritzed out after the first scene. AARRGGHH!!
Since then, I have been impatiently waiting for the CW to post the full episode online. No-go. I finally found it elsewhere, so we can get down to business.
My first reaction was, “Why in the world would a birth son come unannounced to his birth father’s house at night and walk up to the front door when there is clearly a huge party going on?” It seems to me like something as personal as an adoption search and reunion should happen in a much more private setting.
I also find it weird that he went to his birth father’s house instead of his birth mother’s house.
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Labels in Adoption Search and Reunion
As the television show 90210 promised, the birth son of Harry Wilson (played by Rob Estes) and Tracy Clark (played by Christina Moore) made his appearance last night, looking suspiciously like the guy who deflowered Julie Mayer and impregnated Danielle Van De Kamp on Desperate Housewives. (The birth son, Sean, is played by Josh Henderson, who also played Edie’s nephew, Austin McCann, on Desperate Housewives.) The birth son only had two lines, but those two lines were enough to spark an interesting topic.
Sean unknowingly walked up to his two half-siblings and stated that he was “Harry Wilson’s and Tracy Clark’s son.” I was a little taken aback by this (and sitting on the edge of my seat waiting to see everyone’s reaction next week!). I found it odd that he referred to himself as their “son.”
Now, don’t get me wrong. I believe that anyone involved in an adoption search and reunion has the right to label himself in any way he wants.
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90210: Adoption Search & Reunion Effects on Birth Siblings
As I shared in my blog entry 90210 Adoption Search and Reunion Storyline for November Sweeps, 90210 is diving into an adoption search and reunion storyline. This week’s episode was the first installment. This episode gave me a lot to think about regarding the dynamics of adoption search and reunion.
When I think about adoption search and reunion, I generally think about how it feels for the birth mother and the adoptee to meet again. I have also thought a little bit about how an adoption search and reunion might affect the adoptive family. However, I have not given much thought to the ramifications for birth siblings. That was focus of this week’s episode of 90210.
90210 Adoption Search and Reunion Storyline for November Sweeps
According to the October 27 issue of TV Guide, the adoption search and reunion storyline will kick into high gear on Beverly Hills 90210 just in time for the November sweeps. On November 4, adoptive parents Harry (played by Rob Estes) and Debbie (played by Lori Loughlin) will tell their teenage children, Annie (played by Shenae Grimes) and Dixon (played by Tristan Wilds), that their father has a 22-year-old birth son. The audience will meet the birth son, Sean (played by Josh Henderson), on November 11.
The family is not new to adoption. They adopted Dixon out of foster care when he was younger.
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“90210” Kicks Off an Adoption Search and Reunion Storyline
When I decided to watch the new 90210, my only motivation was nostalgia. Who knew that this show would provide me with a seemingly endless supply of adoption topics to blog about?
As I have shared before, 90210 has a transracial adoption storyline, with Dixon (played by Tristan Wilds having been adopted into a Caucasian family. I also shared that 90210 introduced a storyline in which Dixon’s adoptive father, Harry Wilson (played by Rob Estes) found out that he was a birth father.
In this episode, Harry’s high school sweetheart, Tracy Clark (played by Christina Moore), who is the mother of his birth son, asked Harry if he would like to search for their now 22-year-old birth son.
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More on 90210’s Transracial Adoption Storyline
I have really been enjoying the way that the new television show 90210 has been revealing just a little bit about the transracial adoption storyline each week. In my first post about the 90210 transracial adoption storyline, I shared that Dixon (played by Tristan Wilds) is an African-American boy who was adopted by a Caucasian family. Dixon’s adopted sister, Annie (played by Shenae Grimes), is the parents’ biological child.
As I shared here, Dixon and Annie had a brief conversation about his adoption in the pilot. That conversation was mostly about how Dixon was not looking forward to having to explain his adoption to a bunch of new people.
In the second episode of 90210, Dixon alluded to growing up in rough foster homes.
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New “90210” Has Two Adoption Storylines
I watched the two-hour premier of the new television show, 90210, and I was impressed with what I saw. I was a fan of the original version, so I was not quite sure how I would feel about a remake. Then I found out about the show having a transracial adoption storyline, and I was doubly concerned about how I would feel about the show. (I grow weary of watching shows that use poor adoption language and represent adoption incorrectly.)
I had nothing to worry about. The show was entertaining, and they did a great job with how they handled adoption.
I knew that the “new kids in town” were part of an adoptive family. Annie is her parents’ biological child, and they adopted her brother, Dixon, eight years ago. Only a couple of brief mentions of the adoption were made during the pilot.
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