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GUEST BLOGGER: One Year Down, A Lifetime to Go

It has been 11 months since we’ve heard anything from one of our dear guest bloggers Snafu Suz, but we are fortunate that she has yet another candid and engaging blog to share with us. Over a year ago Snafu Suz and her husband adopted two children from foster care; recently the adoption was finalized.

Snafu Suz is a blogger at Seattle PI. In addition to being an adoptive Mom she is also a cancer survivor.

 

It's been a year and two months since the kids moved in and about six weeks since the adoption was finalized. What a year it has been!

When I first started this blog and decided on a name [Adoption Adventures], I had no idea how fitting it would be. Adoption is certainly an adventure, and a difficult one at that. Being a parent to foster kids has been the greatest challenge of my life. And this is coming from someone who battled cancer just three and a half years ago. Parenthood makes cancer look like a breeze. I wish I were kidding.

This first year held so many things to blog about but I just didn't have the energy to do it. By the end of the day I was so emotionally exhausted that the last thing I wanted to do was write about it and relive the day. I wanted to just do something relaxing and mindless instead, like watch TV, goof around on Facebook, or sleeping. Not only that my son was in half-day Kindergarten which only left me two and a half hours a day to myself. (I swear, half-day Kindergarten was the bane of my existence.) It only left me enough time for errands, getting a few things done around the house …or sleeping. Plenty to blog about, little time and no energy to do it.

Like the day my son decided to go explore the woods adjacent to our property without telling me, causing my first parental panic. Or the time our daughter got a bloody nose in the wee hours of the morning and didn't come wake us up until she and the bathroom were so covered in blood that she looked like that scene out of the movie "Carrie". And then there's the time my son decided to pee on the driveway where we could all see him from the window – while our social worker was there for her monthly visit. And let's not forget the time my daughter decided to play with fire in her bedroom – and yes she did this while the social worker was there for her monthly visit. All this while Bill and I are brand new parents, trying to figure out what the hell we were doing.

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Wingin’ The Mom Thing

We recently posted a blog by Snafu Suz that was actually written over three months ago. This new blog is another candid and poignant account of beginning motherhood with older children adopted from foster care.

Things are much better than they were when I wrote my last entry. I'm surviving, I swear. And it's not all horrible. The meltdowns have greatly reduced and we continue to feel more and more like a family. All things considered things are pretty good. It's just such a huge life change. I can't really stress that enough. Huge, I tell you! HUGE! Taking this particular path to parenthood is not for sissies, I'll tell you that much.

In a way I feel like I'm the one who's been hit the hardest by all this change. Maybe I'm underestimating the stress everyone else is feeling, I don't know. All I know is that I feel overwhelmed most of the time. I feel like I've been inundated with a million new tasks and there's an increased busyness to my life. There's more laundry, the house is a cluttered mess, and I actually have to cook now (and lord knows cooking is not my strong suit). There's homework and sports and afterschool activities and doctors appointments and the PTSA. But it's not just that. There's something more. Something bigger. There's a huge amount of pressure hanging over my head.

I'm the mom now.

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GUEST BLOG: Making a Difference in Your World and a Child’s World Through Adoption

Snafu Suz has blogged for us in the past and after she “disappeared” from the face of the earth temporarily, I finally found her and voila, here is an update on her life and the adoption of her two children. 

Susan Metters (aka Snafu Suz) is a 40-something writer, cancer survivor, and adoptive mom. She and her husband were in the process of adopting two children through the foster system [the last time she blogged for us]. First-time parents, they found themselves going from zero to sixty at lightning speed when they brought a 5-year old boy and an 8-year old girl into their lives. Admittedly, Susan is completely winging the mom thing and parenting by the seat of her pants. You can read about Susan’s life adventures by visiting her two Seattle PI blogs: Lemon Margaritas and Adoption Adventures. Her adoption blog can also be found at SeattleMomBlogs.com.

Riding Out The Storm

Things have been getting rough lately. Really rough. And I mean really really.

The week before last started out with five meltdowns in two days. Five! In two days! The kids, of course, not me. Although by the fifth one I swear I nearly had a meltdown myself.) Then we had a couple of good days with some drama and at least one more meltdown sprinkled in. Then we topped the week off with a sibling spat that ended in a split lip, one kid screaming bloody murder, the other one swearing it wasn't their fault, and two frazzled parents at their wits end.

This past week has been only slightly better. Seems like at least one of the kids has a tantrum or meltdown at least every other day. And the fighting between the two of them is an every day occurrence.

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GUEST BLOG: Making a Difference in Your World and a Child’s World Through Adoption

Snafu Suz has blogged for us in the past and after she “disappeared” from the face of the earth temporarily, I finally found her and voila, here is an update on her life and the adoption of her two children. 

Susan Metters (aka, Snafu Suz) is a 40-something writer, cancer survivor, and adoptive mom. She and her husband were in the process of adopting two children through the foster system [the last time she blogged for us]. First-time parents, they found themselves going from zero to sixty at lightning speed when they brought a 5-year old boy and an 8-year old girl into their lives. Admittedly, Susan is completely winging the mom thing and parenting by the seat of her pants. You can read about Susan’s life adventures by visiting her two Seattle PI blogs: Lemon Margaritas and Adoption Adventures. Her adoption blog can also be found at SeattleMomBlogs.com.

Zero to Sixty

I bet by now you've started thinking I've dropped off the face of the earth. I haven't, although my world has turned upside down.

After 5 months of waiting and wondering (which in the adoption world actually isn't that long), we found our children. We're parents! YIKES!

We first received info about them from our agency on July 14th; an 8-year old girl and 5-year old boy. (C'mon, admit it. You're relieved we didn't end up with 3 kids.) Their social worker had read our home study report and asked about us specifically, wanting to know if we might be interested. Their description sounded good (and as an added bonus their pictures were pretty cute), so we said yes, we were interested in more info. Our agency sent along a summary of their foster files.

Now we didn't think much of it right then. We'd gotten to that point with other children several times and they didn't pan out for various reasons. So having a social worker interested in us and getting to read a foster summary didn't necessarily mean anything would come of it.

But then we read their summaries. There wasn't anything that jumped out at us as something we couldn't (or weren't willing) to deal with. They sounded like good kids who had been dealt a bad hand. And with a bit of curious wonderment we looked at each other. Could these be our kids?

We called our agency and said we were still interested, and from there things started accelerating much more quickly than expected. We talked to their social worker and then their current foster mom, and before we knew it we were driving 3-hours from home to meet them.

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Hurry Up and Wait

 

 

 Our guestblogger today is Susan Metters (aka, Snafu Suz), a 40-something writer, cancer survivor, and aspiring mom.  She and her husband are currently approved to adopt and are waiting to be matched with a sibling group of 2 or 3 through the foster system.  They are first-time parents, and a little bit crazy.  They have adopted several fur-kids in their 13-year marriage and decided it was time to adopt some of the human variety.  They share a home on wooded acreage in the Pacific Northwest with their two old, beloved, shelter dogs.  You can read about Susan’s life adventures by visiting her two Seattle PI blogs: Lemon Margaritas and Adoption Adventures. Her adoption blog can also be found at SeattleMomBlogs.com.

 

 

We're in that part of the adoption process where we're just waiting.  All the paperwork, interviews and classes are done.  We're approved now and just waiting for a kiddo or two (or three).

  

When we were doing our paperwork and classes we tried to plow through it as quickly as we could.  I had surgery in the middle of it all which slowed us down, but we tried to plug away at it consistently.  From the time we sent in our application to the time we got approved was about 5-months.

 

I know that may not sound very fast, but as every adoptive parent knows the amount of stuff we had to do was pretty monumental.  We were also limited by class availability and our social worker's schedule.  It took her 6-weeks just to write up our home study report!  After reading the report I realized what a huge task that was.  When I think about it all, it's no wonder it took 5-months.