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My middle son is both RAD and a cutter. It is not a good combination. All of the instincive parenting takes you to failure with both disorders. My experience is that agencies are kind enough not to provide help, the kid is placed, the adoption is final, what is your problem? Getting the info on what to do takes a fair amount of effort, specailists. It has to be very difficult for families that either aren't used to reaching out for help, or that very much want to be an independant family unit.

RAD does come across as the child from hell until puberty. A nasty, ungreatfull, rejecting disappointment. Puberty changes the child into somthing that is clearly not right, I can belive that it might not be determined until then (if there is no therapy). Your cautions and instructions on cutting and what not to do are exactly right Faith. It is hard to have your child keep doing this and really there is no quick fix.

I can understand the sense of defeat and frustration those parents must have felt. You are right Lisa, they had the obligation to get the information on what to do. It must have felt completely hopless to the parents. I do have a hard time seeing them as criminals, like the typical abusive parents we hear of, they were trying to make things work, they cared. John

While I strongly feel that

While I strongly feel that both the parents and the child were victims in this case, I still hold these parents accountable for what I consider highly inappropriate/abusive parenting techniques. Ultimately, they are the parents, the adults, and have the responsibility of reaching out for help when they are out of control because their daughter is out of control. Something is not right in this story - I'm pretty sure that there was a lot more going on behind the scenes - tragically.

Lisa S.

"You don't have to burn books to destroy a culture. Just get people to stop reading them." Ray Bradbury

Adoption Under One Roof - Comments for "Adoptive Parents Indicted for Restraining Adopted Child to Prevent Self-Injury"

cutters

While I strongly feel that