Adoption Under One Roof - Comments for "Trauma Tuesday: Sexual Aggression in the Sexually Abused Child"

the big O

Um, not to get too personal here, but personally I think sex still feels good even if you don't orgasm. Sure, without an orgasm you are left feeling unsatisfied and unfinished, if you will, but it doesn't mean the rest of it isn't enjoyable.

Now that we've got that cleared up ;), I learned long ago in sex ed that rapists don't rape for pleasure, they rape for power. I know your friend is not a rapist, but it makes complete sense that her sexual experiences were about feeling in control, which has to do with power and empowerment. I also knew a gal like that, when I was in college.

Light bulb moment

Oh, my. I think you have just explained one of my son's fixation with making whoopie. Yes, I am sure he enjoyed the sensation, but it was too much for that to be all of it. Like all of my boys, he had a serious problem with women and trust. What a wonderful way to get even and feel powerful instead of helpless. Control was alway a huge issue for him. The sad part is that the conrol and victimization happens to someone other than the bad guy or bad girl, and the cycle continues. John