Adoption Under One Roof - Comments for "Nebraska Safe Haven Law - Child Dumping"

This law according to me

This law according to me will not be certainly prove to be a fruitful and it is needed the law makers should re consider the law.
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sathyan

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Perhaps purchase is an option?

Some grandparents recently purchased their 13 year old granddaughter from her mother for $1200 and the granddaughter knows it. The price started at 73k and was negotiated down. The child is obviously much better off with her GPs. At 13 she is sexually active, has run away, smokes, drinks, and I am not sure what else. I hope her GPs can help her, but it may be too late to make significant changes, especially knowing her own purchase price. She is a beautiful sweet girl with a lot of positive attributes as well.

Dumped, Abandoned, Dropped Off

I struggled with my word choice. Dumped? Abandoned? Left Behind? Unwanted? Dropped Off?

I was trying to pick a more neutral word and couldn't find it. "Dropped off" is something you do to dry cleaning or you "drop off Johnny at school". This was too mild a phrase. And the others are loaded with emotion.

I thought about inventing a work like "havened". I am not sure why I picked dumped over the others.

AngelaW
The ones that you love the most are usually the ones that hurt you the most. - Unknown

If only

If only my sons could have been 'dumped' (hate that word), so much damage could have been prevented. Yes, CPS did step in, but way down the road. In at least two cases, I am sure the birth parents would have put them into care much sooner. The two cases in the news, seemed like exactly the relief valve that families and kids need. The 15 year old was not answering the helm at all for his guardian, a sign of bad things to come and the 11 year old was hospitalized for evaluation, they don't do that unless they think there is something to evaluate. Neither would have been able to get help without this law.

I agree that knowing there will be contact with CPS is a considerable deterent. John

Flipped My Thinking

You have flipped my thinking. Maybe all the "Safe Haven" laws should be changed to include children from birth to 18 years of age.

Hmmmm..... I know too many families destroyed/driven to the edge by severe mental health issues (parents and children).

I believe the state of Nebraska is going to attempt reunification and provide services. So maybe "Safe Haven" should be there for all children.

What would prevent people from using it except in crisis? They would be inviting Child Protection Services into their life. Just dealing with CPS can be punishing sometimes.

AngelaW
The ones that you love the most are usually the ones that hurt you the most. - Unknown

They know

The kids who are not wanted know that. Being dropped off at the hospital is not their first inkling that this is a problem. I would argue that it does address situations that will become dangerous or very toxic for the child. Parents who are beyond their limits in parenting have little real help avalible. There really are kids who are simply not going to respond to any type of parenting. There are parents with very limited parenting skills.

I would think they need to tinker with having some type of reunification attempt as part of the drop off. Yes, you can force the family to stay together, but the outcome may be terrible. John