Adoption Under One Roof - Comments for "What are the Chances of a Newborn Baby Being Adopted?"

Thanks For Clarification

Thanks for the clarification.

AngelaW
The ones that you love the most are usually the ones that hurt you the most. - Unknown

New Jersey Adoption Determinations

An Unknown Father

Hi Angela, Just to keep my situation a little more accurate, I just want to point out one thing. I would have been a parent to my son if adoption law was followed by Veronica Serio of Children of the World Adoption Agency. [Now out of business due to stirrings of my case.] New Jersey double-standard adoption law and Adoption Attorney Steven I. Sklar's deplorable actions of deceit and deception also played a part.

I lost my right to parent by means of other people's illegal activity. That withstanding, due to the age of my son and his innocence I chose not to legally battle the adoptive parents for custody. I know in my heart that these people were privy to the above stated illegal activity. Did not they care for or ask about prenatal medical records?

Therein, the only thing I fought and [lost] was my battle to expose the ways and means of adoption fraud. This type of activity grows daily.

Very true

...the part about assuming all adoptions are special needs. I have a friend who adopted twice. Both were domestic infant adoptions. One son has autism, and the other has diabetes, and neither situation is mild. They adore their sons and do great with their issues, but definitely did not expect them. And these are seasoned foster parents, so they know the whole spectrum.

Infant Adoption Uncommon

If you look at the statistics, infant "stranger" adoption is the most uncommon form of adoption. I am also single and looked at my odds of adopting via domestic/infant route back in 1999. The odds weren't good.... and honestly I am very uncomfortable with domestic infant adoption practices in this country. So I turned to my local foster care system (run on a county level in my state). I couldn't even get anyone to return my phone call.

So then I looked at international adoption. I adopted my darling daughter at 3.5 years of age from Ukraine in 2000. She has recently turned 12 years old and is doing great.

Many single women turned to international adoption for very similar reasons to mine.... I have heard that single parents have an easier time adopting from foster care in my area now. And John (who commented on this thread) is a single dad who adopted from foster care multiple times.

This is going to sound harsh, but I don't mean it that way.... There is no way to adopt a "Gerber" baby with the fat, cute cheeks. It is safest to look at any adoption as a "special needs" adoption. When I first started my adoption research I thought that I would adopt an infant. But the longer I researched and thought about it, the less pull I felt toward infant adoption.

My first child referral in Ukraine was for an 18 month old. I turned the referral down because I wanted at child who was 3 years and older. My goal was to try and skip the diapers.

I know many parents who adopted older children. There are still many "firsts" with the child.

If you have any interesting in exploring older child adoption, I can send you reading suggestions. John has written about adopting older children from foster care; http://ouradopt.com/category/john

"Unknown father" is a birth father who fought (and lost) to parent his child. He wrote a couple of blogs; http://ouradopt.com/category/david-archuletta

AngelaW
The ones that you love the most are usually the ones that hurt you the most. - Unknown

Which question

'What are the chances of a newborn baby who needs and adoptive home being adopted?' would be one possible reading of the question. This is a newbie however. Could they actually be asking 'What percentage of newborn babies are adopted at birth?' In other words, how commonly does this happen.

Baby

An Unknown Father

Is that with or without "mayo"?

"my long waited" "it", for whom is your quest about?

Adoption

I want to adopt a Caucasian baby/infant. I am a single mother and want to do this for a few years now, but keep on getting to dead ends. Please help me to adopt my long waited baby. Hope to hear from you soon. I want to give a child the life it deserves, and I know I will be the best mom any child can wish for.