Adoption Under One Roof - Comments for "Trauma Thursday: What Flashbacks Feel Like"

Thanks for the insight

Hmmm -- I did not realize that. Yes, I generally struggle during the summer months, but I did not piece that together. I will have to check out what I was writing about this time last year. Thanks for the insight.

Let me know if you notice a trend of me being in a "good" place over the course of a year. I don't want to blink and miss it. LOL

- Faith

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We must BE the change we wish to see in the world. - Ghandi

I followed this link from

I followed this link from today's post on BL. I found it very helpful, and also checked out your entry from last year almost the same day as it was linked to this one as Traumatized Adopted Child and Body Memories.
Faith, this is incredible, the timing of your posts, you obviously work through some very difficult issues at this time of year. My heart is drawn to you. Thank you for all of your strength and help.

These posts have really helped me to deal with memories I have been having.
I am an adoptee as far as I have been told, from the age of 3 days. I have always struggled with how could they want a child so badly and go through all that they had to endure and then abuse me in such horrific ways.
Make no sense to me. Then none of it does.
Hugs to You!
Vicki

PTSD

My guess is that the need for safety is from the PTSD. I would also guess that all children with RAD also have PTSD.

- Faith

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We must BE the change we wish to see in the world. - Ghandi

RAD or PTSD

I have two daughters w/ RAD and one w/ PTSD - they are grown now, but the RAD ones did not show that safety obsession (in fact, quite the opposite), but the one w/ PTSD did obsess on safety most of her life. She is 24 now and is under control.

RAD similar to PTSD

I happen to have four sons who have RAD. It is an ingrained habit pattern to frequently talk about saftey in just about every situation. Not focusing on, and verbalizing saftey results in some impressive melt downs. I have always associated that need with RAD. Each of the boys also has PTSD, and it is a considerable player for all of them. Now I am wondering if the need for that focus is from RAD, or PTSD, or both?